Wedding Day
2025-11-01
Man, yesterday was such a long day. After dealing with the long delayed flight, taking the delayed bus to the hotel, and having the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner all after doing an all-nighter the night before, I crashed into bed at around 9 PM after taking a well-deserved shower (I was so sweaty the whole day, man) and was asleep for a nice 11 hours. After getting ready this morning, I felt that now would be a good time to get today's entry in before I have to start doing stuff for the wedding. I have a good chunk of my morning free, so I'm going to spend it here in the comfort of my hotel room so that I can continue to decompress from everything.
Last night at the rehearsal dinner, I was expected to make a speech for the bride and groom. I had been told that I was going to make this speech months in advance, yet I couldn't think of a single thing to say in all that preparation time. So instead of freaking out about it, I resolved to just go off the cuff and say it from the heart. I have some public speaking experience, well, not a ton. But I felt comfortable enough in front of everyone to just say what was on my mind. I had one or two anecdotes lined up in my head that I knew would land well, and then the rest was just a matter of divine inspiration. Seriously, I just turned my brain off and let my mouth do all the work.
So today is the wedding and it's going to be an all-day affair, of course. I have my suit ready and now it's just a matter of not letting it get destroyed between now and the ceremony—should be easy enough. I feel a lot more comfortable about it today than I did last night because I now actually have gotten some sleep, but it's just going to be a busy day with a lot of socializing and doing stuff.
I've gotten a lot less tolerant of socializing. Perhaps I could say that my social battery has gotten weaker, but I think that more than anything it's just gotten less tolerant of meandering. For me, I want to socialize the best way I know how: all killer, no filler. I don't like to mince words or pretend about anything, so I try to avoid niceties and pleasantries and other things that obfuscate the direct line of communication. Most communication is non-verbal anyway, so speech is really just icing on the cake, so to speak. People have always been good at talking not at each other, but past each other. There's always subtext to read in a social situation, things to notice, that kind of thing.
But I have a feeling that a lot of people spend a lot of time in their heads when socializing, reading all that subtext and so on. I don't really want to get deep into any kind of social psychology because I really don't like that kind of stuff. I also don't really like meta-socializing either. Like, when people talk about the social situation directly instead of just being in the social situation is a bit of an annoying thing for me.
Today won't involve any of that, though. It'll be a good day.